Friday, August 7, 2015
The Evil of Alcoholism
His name Jeff. He was 47.
Jeff was an alcoholic, and as many of you may be well aware, alcoholics live a very destructive life, leaving loved ones severely wounded in the path. Near the end, we heard he had been attempting to get into rehab.
We are not sure exactly what happened, but something triggered a drunken evening and it ended in a fall that left him needing emergency brain surgery. He was placed on life support.
The state required his biological children to be the guardians of his care. Enter my nieces and their half brother. They had been thrust into an adult world of painful decision making over night that many adults themselves have yet to deal with. They had to eventually make the decision to take their father off of life support and put him under compassionate care with hospice.
He was on life support for almost two weeks. Once a week, the neurosurgeons and other health care workers would meet with the family members to discuss his care. The decision was made by my nieces and their brother to remove the life support; to see what God's plan was. After labored- breathing (with oxygen) for five days on his own but still no response to stimuli and having fixed pupils, they made the decision to have a feeding tube placed. He passed 24 hours after the feeding tube was placed.
My nieces are 18, 22, & 23. Megan (23) is to be married in five weeks. Emily (22) is a recent college grad and has been starting her masters over the summer. Molly (18) is suppose to be leaving for nursing school in a couple of weeks.
Can you imagine making these decisions at their age?
Throw into the mix the fact that Jeff's family is very dysfunctional, a family of mostly alcoholics starting with Jeff's mother. Where I do not mean to throw accusations, I must paint a very clear picture so you can try and grasp what my nieces and their half brother have endured. In their grief, his family has been very angry and have lashed out at my nieces and their half brother. If I could sum up the verbal assaults and accusations, I would have to use the word 'evil'. The family's denial of their own brother's self-destruction has resulted in great anxiety for my nieces.
This tragic situation obviously needs prayers from every angle. One of their first acts was to have their father anointed by a priest. They knew he had attempted rehab. They knew he did NOT want to be an alcoholic. They knew he was sorry for years of pain and suffering he caused. During his "sober" last days, the girls were able to find peace with him even though he was unconscious. They mourn him.
I ask you to pray for this entire, tragic situation, for all those involved. I ask you to especially pray for the peace my nieces deserve.
~ Patty ~