Sunday, July 14, 2013

My Love-Hate Relationship with Homeschool

I have a LOVE - HATE relationship with homeschooling.

I don't always feel all fuzzy and warm and giddy when I talk about it or think about it for that matter.  There are plenty of moments when I down right dread it.  When school is out, I don't want to even think about it.

Then there is the stress and tension.  Oh my goodness...

But you know what?  I can pile all the negative up, and still view it simply as my vocation, what God has called me to do.

So where does the love fest come in?

Girlfriend, the blessings are bountiful!  And you know what the BIGGEST blessing is for me?

My faith has grown abundantly, in leaps and bounds, from teaching my own children the faith.

Up until then, I heard my faith saying "Don't do this...Don't do that"  and I never understood the  Why Not of it all.  Which lead me to do things that I completely and utterly regret.

There's no one to blame but myself.  I had great parents who set an awesome example.  I received 16 years of Catholic education, graduating from Creighton University.  For the most part, I had faith-filled nuns and priests.  But something was missing.

God's plan is so awesome!  He knew what I needed and just how to get it :)

He knew that if I started teaching the faith to my children I would find and understand the  Why Not's!

And that's exactly what happened.  It truly is God's calling.

But I still dislike, with GREAT disdain, the stress and tension it brings!  ha ha!

As David put it, our goal is to give them enough Why Not's so they don't make the same mistakes we made.

The 2013-2014 school books arrived this past  Thursday.

Some semesters are tougher than others and those tough ones can leave you tender.

But! I'm working on my attitude for this year, and I know I'll be excited come July 22.

I better be because my attitude directly affects their attitude!

~  Patty  ~


  1. "He knew that if I started teaching the faith to my children I would find and understand the Why Not's!"

    EXACTLY! I think this is so true for so many people. Just think of what conversions could be happening in our parishes if more parents made that leap--to teach their kids the Faith!!

    Great post Patty!

    1. So true!! I know some AMAZING parents who send their kids to parochial school and public school and still do an awesome job teaching the faith at home. Note I said "some". Wish there were more like them for the reasons you stated!

  2. With my husband and I both being converts, it has been a slightly different road for us in teaching our kids the faith. We don't have the childhood traditions and family background.

    1. Phyllis, I know a LOT of converts to the Catholic faith. So many are better at their faith than "cradle Catholics"! Keep up the good work. But what I was trying to say is that even with my cradle Catholic background, it seemed all NEW to me as I started teaching my children. As though my eyes were really open wide for the first time in my life. My husband would agree. I had so many amazing traditions, but sadly, so many Catholics just use these more as a part of their heritage. As easy as they say "I'm Irish" or "I'm Polish", I find, in my experience, too many cradle Catholics use the term "I'm Catholic" as though it's just a part of their heritage. These people don't fully practice it, it's more of going through the routine. Sadly, I think I was just going through the routine myself ...wanting more at times, finally finding it when I picked up the St. Joseph's Baltimore Catechism. I hope that all makes sense. :) And it isn't to say these people are going to hell. Who am I to judge. I'm just judging the "action" or in this case, the lack of "action", by starting with myself.

  3. I must comment on my own...I truly believe growing up in the 70's and 80's was not a healthy time for the youth, the Catholic Church, and evangelization. There were too many changes, and many were not correct. Many people have lost their faith...and sadly...that cycle will continue in families until someone decided to continue their faith education.

  4. A great post, Patty. Oh gosh, I'm there with you on the stress and tension. I think I can honestly say last year was my most stressful to date. We will begin our 6th year of homeschooling and while I always greet it with new eyes and anticipation, but in mid-July I'm all stressed about it. Again, this will be the first year I'm trying to change things up and make them different for Lily. I'm still sitting with a huge question mark over my head trying to figure out exactly how to do that.
    But then I think of the alternative and still feel that God is leading us to keep on keeping on with homeschooling. I do think this year will be a year of shifts and changes. I just hope I am up for the task, but that it will make my family happier and content.

    Blessings as you gear up for school!

    1. Sarah, it does get better. My worst home school year ever was when - within 18 months time - we adopted little man, my dad passed away from cancer, David sold his business, took another job, moved us half way across the county - MAJOR life changes. I thought I was done. But I promised I'd finish the year and take the summer off. I needed to give myself enough time to think clearly. I ended up forging ahead and that next year was THE best year of home schooling that I ever had. Hang in there. No matter what you do, you will do what's best for your family in the end.

  5. I honestly don't see how you do it. I would think that as the kids get older, it would get harder.

    1. Good morning, Mary. You are spot on! Remember as a child in first grade, and when you looked at an older siblings jr high books, or even thought about jr. high, you thought you'd never be able to do it. That's what it is like to teach at home. But with each year, it's another building block, for you and the student. The great news is, for the most part, the child grows into an independent student. Also, with the internet, there are online classes, videos, or even teachers on a disc that you can purchase. We just spent the extra $$ and purchased her an Algebra teacher. It really isn't as bad as it seems when you utilize the sources that the publishing companies provide for you. My biggest stress was deciding which courses she needed to take. Again, I just followed the counselors and went along with the program they were suggesting - since that is their job and that's where some of my money is going to. I now look back and consider grades Kind- 5th as the "honey moon" years :)

  6. Hi Patty, do you really start up on July 22nd? Can't you put it off til September? :) How wonderful to know and do what's best for your family. They are blessed to learn so much from you. ~tara

    1. Hi Tara, good question! I take off about 8 weeks throughout the school year. (Not including summer time.) I fit in 180 school days, sprinkling them with time off (mainly for me! :) It's too bloody hot in July and August down here in Texas to play outside. Our summer heat is like the bitter cold up north. Does that make sense? It can easily reach 100 by end of May down here, so we finish up in early May each year.

  7. Great post Patty, and so true for me too. I know it is what God is calling for our family to do this but, then, I struggle because it is SO hard!! I need to work on my attitude too this year, I so see when I'm crabby, quickly the others become that way too. I really need to come up with a it all flows.

    Your description of Texas weather really makes me want to move there even more!


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