Wednesday, November 3, 2010

Adoption Day Anniversary

I'm Thankful for this...


Every moment of Stan's journey into our lives has been locked safely away into our memories.  The joy; the pain; the love; the moment...truly giving birth, but through one's heart.

I remember how chilly and windy that day was.   I distinctly remembering the noise of all the swirling and blowing leaves, the overcast skies, and witnessing all sorts of characters entering or exiting that building that seemed to be in complete contrast to what our mission was. 

The guards working the metal detectors gave us a big smile when they realized what our mission was.  Their mood shift was happily noted after we gave answer to their inquiries, "So what brings you here?"

Excitement and happiness was sharing the stage with bittersweet and anxiety.  My father had only passed away three weeks earlier and his presence was sorely missed although, we knew he was with us in spirit...proud of his new grandchild. 

My mother made the trip, her first as a widow.  It was extremely difficult for her to venture out for the first time, but, with a brave face, she graced us with her presence.

Then there was the awful anxiety one feels when you know the judge is waiting and you cannot find a parking spot.  Oh my!  We were dropped off at the front door, but it seemed to take forever for David to find a parking spot, walk all the way back, and meet us up on the 7th floor of the courthouse.  

My crazy brain only made the anxiety worse. (Wink)

And then we entered...

This is David and I waiting for the judge to enter the courtroom and then signing the official papers after the proceedings. 

With the Korean program, you are given guardianship for six months stateside and then are granted permission to finalize the adoption based on post placement visits.

We used Lifelink based on the where we lived and through the suggestions of other families who had used them.  They, in turn, partnered with Eastern Social Welfare Society

Back in the states, our judge was an amazing pro-family judge.  From the pictures below, you can see how much she completely loved presiding over cases like this one. 

I was so nervous...even afterward...trying to stay polite, formal, and courteous, and at the same time, loving how she let her hair down and chatted it up with the kids.

Then we took official adoption day pictures...

And in the hall with Grammy (my mom)...

...and celebrating that night with chocolate cake.  I think he was mad because it was all gone :)

Today we celebrate our fourth adoption day anniversary.  Our fourth!  It is hard to believe.

We normally keep this special day private, usually having some yummy chocolate cake.   This year I wanted to share it...especially since it falls during National Adoption Month.  I thought it appropriate and possibly helpful for another, future, forever- family.

*A side note:  At this point in his life, he drifts in and out of confusion over what adoption means.  Just last night as we were talking about his special day he said to me, "Mommy.  I was born in your heart and as I grew bigger, so did your tummy!"  (I smile as I type that.)  How he draws his adoption picture; how it changes from time to time, always sounds good to us.  We allow him to tell his story as he wants to.  He is only 5, and it will become clearer as each year passes by. to frost that cake and  thanking God for the beauty of this day!


  1. What a happy day! What a sweet gift from God your little Stan is! Enjoy your day!

  2. What a beautiful story. Thank you for sharing it. (And haven't the kids grown?!)

  3. Thanks for sharing your story with us! I can't see the pictures at school, but I'll check them out when I get home!

  4. Congrats!! Thanks for sharing your precious moments of Adoption Day. Enjoy your day and the celebration.

  5. happy adoption day to you and your family... and Stan!! the way you described the day made me feel as tho I was right there watching you go up the court house steps with the leaves swirling aropuind and crunching under your shoes. memories of days like those -- anniversaries of our heart -- seem to get more vivid as time goes on. thanks for sharing. and bless your brave momma for having the courage to make it out that day!

  6. Congratulations! What a blessing your family is.

  7. Thank, Ladies! He is getting ready to help frost the cake. (or lick the batter I should say!)

  8. Love your story. Thank you for sharing as it will surely help others, no doubt. That judge was a beautiful soul, surrounded by those precious children...brought joyful tears to my eyes! Happy celebrating this glorious day;-)

  9. Happy A-Day to "Stan" and fam. I remember when he was just a cute little baby in a photo. What a blessing he has become to all of you. And you girl, are a wonderful mother. Miss you guys.

    PS - I tried to post earlier. Blogger has been giving a hard time as of late.

  10. Hi Patty!
    What a beautiful and touching story of your sweet Stan's journey into your hearts and home! Thank you for sharing it with us! He looks like he enjoyed his celebration cake! Thank you for linking your "Thankful Heart" to our Thankful Hearts Blog Hop! It was a joy to read this post that was filled with so many emotions as you recounted Stan's adoption day! Congrats on 4 wonderful years with your sweet family :)
    God bless,
    Tracy at "A Slice of Smith Life"

  11. What an absolute delight to celebrate! A local friend of mine is celebrating her first anniversary of bringing her little one home from China this week. Such blessings!

  12. Thanks for sharing - adoption is such a beautiful thing and I truly admire those families who are able to do it.

    God Bless you all!

  13. What a blessing! Thanks for following, following you back!

  14. How special and what PRECIOUS pictures!!

    I have been blessed with three uncles and and one aunt who were all adopted, and I can't imagine our family without them! Adoption is such a beautiful and wonderful thing!

    Happy Adoption Day!! May God reward you abundantly for opening up your hearts and home!

  15. Again, thank you all so much for your kind words and thoughts. It has been a surreal day for sure!


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